Back then in the 5th century, the culture was represented in a calendar time together with the moon cycle the newlywed will drink the mead or the honey during the first moon of their marriage. The “mead” is an alcoholic drink that is a honey-based and it was thought to have the aphrodisiac properties or the “love drugs”.
The etymology of “honeymoon” came from the word HONY which pertains to a honey and specifically refers to an “indefinite stage of pleasure and tenderness experiencing by the newlywed, and how sweet it is to be married. While, MOONE, pertains to the fleeting quantity of instances that the sweetness might lasts, and so the old English “hony moone” was formed.
In the 19th century, in Britain, the newlywed will apply their honeymoon to go for the bridal trip, where the couple will travel to take a visit with their family and friends who cannot make it to their wedding day. Nowadays, most of the couples travel on for their honeymoon to have their precious time alone with just each other together.
A month of wine
This principle may sound fantastic, but the truth is that it is pretty grim. The thought of the “honeymoon” way back in the 5th century of European cultures was that the honeymoon age was calculated during the moon cycles. During their wedding, the newlywed was presented with the “moon” or simply a month’s value of mead, which means that they are going to drink together the alcoholic honey wine for a month. The Mead was thought to have aphrodisiac or the love drugs, the couples were anticipated to overdo on wine for about 30 days to be drunk enough and establish that sexual intimacy. It was hoped that the newlywed might conceive the first baby during this time.
So this concept is believed as “moon’s worth of the honey wine”, wow!
The groom will hide the so called “kidnapped bride” to be away for couple of months until the family will stopped searching for them or and the bride becomes pregnant, and at which moment, it will be considered so late for a marriage to become nullified. This is believed to be practiced by some poor men during the early centuries to avoid paying the family of the woman some dowry, like in China, South and East Asia, Africa, South America, and most European gypsy communities.
The kidnapping is a far less romantic couple’s getaway right after the wedding and according to some researchers that a honeymoon is the relic of the “marriage by capture”.
Nowadays, the couples are marrying for love, but in the history, most weddings were not about romance but about class and inheritance, just like the “Pride and Prejudice”.
This is a belief that the couples do not need to be by themselves, they need to use their honeymoon time in experiencing a bridal tour by taking the time to visit their family and friends who did not make it to their wedding.
Honeymoons are changing. The honeymoon of today’s concept has matured to a more luxury affair. It is not about hanging by the pool and drinking some cocktails because couples now are doing it in another way.
Today, many couples are selecting the shortest and the lesser expensive mini-moon or honeymoon after their wedding. The couples are settling with a domestic trip for a couple of days. Then, it will be followed with a longer trip of a few months and sometimes a year, if it is now within their means.
Rather than allowing themselves to sit on the deck chair for some days, there are many couples that are now selecting to rent a car and are out there on an open road taking a multiple visits to different popular spot destinations that will hit their way.
Now, there are also the growing numbers of newly couples that are decided and choose to share to the less fortunate whatever blessings and good fortune they received. The couples simply volunteers and acting some charity work for some organization or projects. “Voluntarism” now is spreading to honeymooners, because there are also multiple companies that are tendering the life changing experience of the newly couples, with enriching and fulfilling the volunteering experiences, and some of the countries for this are Borneo, Nepal, and Thailand.
There is the latest study that shows that about twelve percent of the newlyweds now are no longer having a honeymoon by themselves alone, instead, they are taking with them, their parents and close relatives and some are even bringing their closest best friends and family friends. The groom is also the one that chooses their honeymoon destinations, for the whole family with friends.
While the honeymoon today has a positive connotation, it was applied initially to give warning to the newlyweds about the fading love.
In 1542, Samuel Johnson wrote about the first month of marriage to become full of pleasure and all tenderness; but comparing the mutual affections of the newlywed couples to the shifting moon which is not anymore full and that it started to wane.
Then, in 1552, Richard Huloet wrote about a proverb that is applied to the newlywed which says that, it will not fall-out of love initially, but instead in the beginning, they will love exceedingly, and the vulgar people will call it the “hony mone.”
The honeymoon is a one-shot chance to be away with your husband or your wife and be basked with wedded bliss to an exotic, overpriced location. But although the modern day thinking of seclusion and intimacy, post-wedding trips and vacations have not always been pleased, but still depends on how you spend it and how enjoyed the couples have been.